There is an argument to be debated that my life balance the past few years has painfully been tipped towards the loss side of scale. If I lived as a victim or tended to be a negative person. However, thankfully, I would be the opposite. I am perhaps at times overly optimistic (according to my children) and strongly believe in my own accountability. The cheerleader, thus Coach/Advisor, in me! Besides, as so eloquently presented in a preaching recently, is it loss? Or simply a new beginning within an ending, to center oneself in what the moment offers?
This is a vast topic to write about. There are many directions my mind and fingers would like to travel. For the sake of this post, I am limiting myself as best I can. Listed below are LESSONS, nothing very new, but being considered again through the perspective of my latest “fresh start”.
*A place for everything, everything in its place
*Positioning for success
*It is the little things
*Never underestimate what makes a difference
*Being present, in the presence
*Show up, impact happens in just being there
*Appreciate what you have, before it’s gone
*The memories, not regret, to be forever
*Bad choices have lasting effects
*What is done cannot be undone, “it’s time” to focus on what next
*Don’t do it later
*Do it, say it, be it NOW
*Power of Acceptance
*Unconditional love can exist
*Never give up
*Only takes one time, one person, one discovery
*Go all in
*Whatever you are doing, don’t hold back
*Believe in yourself
*Without taking the risk, you will never actually know
*Eventually you will be acknowledged
*It’s not about you
*Give and take, together
May you prepare, without guilt, for gain within loss! Amongst what may be taken from you, willingly or unwillingly, you aren’t eliminating what was but creating what can be. Begin to end, end to begin, again.
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Ever have one of those days – where life just feels more surreal than real? Most likely, yes. I am having one of those weeks. Had another intended post but after having to unexpectedly say good bye to our dog of 12 years, all my words seemed lacking. Now just trying to make sense of the senseless.
In the End, is - life, work, relationships surreal? An individual expression of how we show up in unintentional exchanges and experiences, real? How do we respond and react without filters? What is our personal willingness to invest? Do we have an intuitive attitude? When thrown a curve, a week off track, surreal or exposing what is real?
Sometimes there simply is no answer. (like why a healthy dog eats a ribbon and the consequences that follow)
I can propose we reimagine…Let there be dreaming, in a dreamlike incident. Be curious about what is explicable in the inexplicable. Believe in significance and hopeful of possibilities.
In the End, if you thesaurus Surreal - bizarre and fantastic, exist together - for real.
Reese you will be missed.
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Do you ever ask yourself – Why this family? Is there a purpose? How possible is it to belong genuinely, connected by similar values, actions and choices?
Simon Sinek gives an acclaimed TED talk on “Start With Why”, likely you are familiar with it or his book. Logically, we start introducing such initiatives at a business level, defining a company vision. It is not as emotional. We can be tactical. What if we reimagined starting at the core of everything we are, do and become? The more I learn and experience, my opinion, a defined or undefined why begins with the Family experiences.
What if you were asked to state for both your family of origin and the family you form, a Why? Could you? Healthy or unhealthy, what principles are guiding? The common thread all members share, support or display while encouraging the importance of the uncommon? Is it comparable from one unit to the other – or significantly and purposefully altered? Do you personally relate with it? Owning or disowning?
There seems to be a predominant belief around the why of family; stated or assumed, universal and uniquely. Containing values in words representing – love, belonging, unconditional, trust, acceptance….. There is a why we want to believe in, in this cornerstone unit that is responsible for shaping ourselves, our society, the world. Existing generation to generation, and does not need to be identified, it just is. Legacy. But what if a clear why is not shared or practiced amongst all members? A gap between what we want to have faith in and what realistically is becomes evident? Perhaps exposing self-serving survival - competition, judgement, division, dishonesty, insecurity….. This dysfunction and disrespect revealed more as we transition from growing up in, to having our own family, and or the loss of patriarch/matriarch?
Does opportunity exist within families to identify or create a vision and then live an authentic purpose? Could you have a family conversation about (or work at) who you are truthfully, what/how you are living, and where you are going? Both individually and together? What difference would become possible?
“Just Do It”, “Think Differently”, “Inspire a better life, a better way” crafted why’s consistent from personality to an ensuing culture… for yourself, we are family, Why?
I have extended an invite through previous blogs - "We Are Family, What and We Are Family, How" - to a survey on a family research project. Concluding this series with "We Are Family, Why", will you contribute to helping me, give back, by clicking (and passing on) the survey button that follows, please. Thanks for considering.
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If you know me you are aware, one of my favorite poems is, “People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do….” – Brian A Chalker
This is quite evident when you attend a funeral, as I did this week. A friend’s mother was called home after 98 years, 11 kids, 2 marriages, 25 or so grandkids and over 50 great grandchildren. Her eulogies, given by 2 grandsons that happen to become priests, described beautifully how this amazing woman touched lives. And still was, as I felt moved. From my friend saying, she made every one of her children feel like they were the only one, to the comments of what an impact she had on the staff at the nursing home, and so much in between. It was obvious the depth this poem rang true. And perhaps you start to reflect on your own life.
Passionate about connecting, once you come into my life and I feel a relationship, I can logically accept it may be a reason or season. My heart, however, will hold you in it. For as long as you allow me to, or the rarity my heart is broken. Though sometimes challenging, ultimately, I feel blessed by this character trait. (Some may say flaw.) I am truly grateful for the how and why of our lives touching and thus say so out loud while I can.
Exactly what are we meant to do, though? A dear friend once said to me, “relationships are simply transactions”. Which does sort of sum up the poem as well. Originally taking a perspective this was a bit sad, I now embrace the truth it holds. Reimagining…We must choose those part of our day to day life. Significant to what we need or are doing presently. A reason? If a person is not relevant in the moment, there is only so much time and attention to give, it is not personal. A season? If we can fill one hand of those that time is never lost with, able to pick up as though it was yesterday. Or have an enduring, unconditional acceptance despite anything each other does. A blessing for a lifetime?
And at the end, when your life is being celebrated, the gathering of these different transactions may come together to remember how you affected their life; reason, season or lifetime. What is possible is ”...People will remember how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou.
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Happy International Women’s Day to all. Sincere and heartfelt thoughts to each and every woman for the gift you already are and are able to choose to become. Thank you to all the men that are supportive and caring.
For me it begs the question though, aren’t the other 364 days an observance of women too? (And when is Men’s day? Just curious.) In no way am I minimizing the importance of this celebration, recognition, stories, and more that are being promoted and shared. I cheer for them as truly outstanding! (As a girl, I too belted out “I Am Woman” with Helen Reddy)
I am suggesting an additional narrative though. Women are always deserving and worthy. I sometimes feel that women critically underappreciate themselves and the power they have always, and will forever hold. From a pure factual standpoint–without the role a woman owns, there is no human race. It does not get more powerful than that (I am not ignoring the man’s involvement and my faith must give due credit to the spirit of my God too). We should never underestimate that a woman in one way or another, deeply and greatly effects every individual’s life, as a mother, grandmother, wife, partner, employee, executive, entrepreneur, boss, caregiver and or friend. A woman stands in the background, and the foreground, constantly. You cannot avoid having a woman touch your life. Embrace this truth and the depth of its meaning.
So, this is where I get confused.
Why the desire to compare or divide the sexes when we do not have to? They are not comparable and exist only because of the other. I am not naively saying that life doesn’t hand women obstacles to overcome and we label them often around arguments over “being equals”. Reality, there is no equal. Equality is a perception and an evolving, unattainable goal. There is mutual respect. Where equality may exist is agreeing we are ALL a one of a kind, unique individual. Ideally, measuring our being from the inside, not out. Are we fulfilling our distinct potential? Are we living our best in every moment? Do we simply and completely accept ourselves as we are right now? And from the outside, may we be valued for our character, experiences, contributions and empathy. Assessed by our talents, abilities, knowledge and kindness. Obviously, so many opportunities exist to offer each other, deserving, mutual respect.
May I propose reimagining this day?
Are we celebrating being special? We need what differentiates one another, and that is the point.
Are we acknowledging redefining limits and where they come from? We are never without the option to choose.
Are we respecting achievements? We can find success wherever we seek to embrace it.
Happy International “I am being the one and only me, to the best of my capabilities, breaking all boundaries day”.
If open to the possibilities.
*Lyrics of Helen Reddy’s, “I am Woman”. Written by DAVID DUNDAS,EDDIE HOWELL
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For years I was spending about half my life traveling. Mostly business. Having an unwelcomed disruption to the practice, this past week-end was my first time in an airport and back on a plane in 15 months. For pleasure! The gap, not a big deal, really. Travel is not easy!! Many might envy me or would be relieved. But having the break made me experience it a bit differently. There was more to notice. (perhaps a future blog) For this writing, a bit of lightheartedness came upon me.
I thought I would share.
Is it possible for your seat selection to say something about who you are? Aisle or window preferred? I am going with the theory IF you seek the middle without purpose or circumstance, you are unique!
My very unscientific hypothesis evolved…
An aisle picker? Just my guesses, are the most common, by a small margin. And often size, health and or anxieties factor in the equation. Could we describe the individual, wanting to be in control of their surroundings? Dare I say keep personal power of choice, instead of depending on others? They enjoy the most available freedom in a confined space? Is there a sense of entitlement? Are they eager, a little impatient? Don’t like heights, more comfortable grounded? Focused on quickest way to end result? More social, open to conversation? Less bothered by activity or interruptions around them? To get this spot, is one likely proactive, organized and conscientious in planning?
If choosing the window, size and annoyances may be a factor too. Someone that is interested in as much of their “own” space as possible? Accepting of surroundings or aware of limitations? Understand teamwork or exercising initiative to meet needs? Practice consideration? They enjoy seclusion in a confined space? Less social? More patient? Like the light, want to see where they are going? Maybe, as able, experience the journey to the destination or a daydreamer? Position themselves to disengage from surrounding activity? Are they tolerant of the process, slightly less structured when coordinating plans?
And in the middle – they are willing to sacrifice for the one they are with or a last-minute planner?
Of course, this is random and meant to be inconsequential. I am sure I am not the first to propose an observation. Obviously, the seat “qualities” are not exact opposites of each other and certainly an individual doesn't have all the outlined above. If even any. But should it be fun to reimagine any connection between seat selection and personality, what do you think is possible? Are there traits you want to add or challenge? Maybe seeing yourself or a travel companion? Hopefully, you smiled or chuckled at the thought.
Enjoy your travels, be safe!
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As I take a seat here in my sitting room, watching yet another snowfall outside the window, I descend into how it is possible to find gratitude every moment and day.
A thought to share! (Tried to be brief, not too successfully).
It is yet another single digit chilling day, and we certainly do not need any more snow in MN after we broke our February record already. But it is soft, fluffy, see the uniqueness in every flake, snow. That is painting the enormous pine trees that have become a front yard. (Three, planted 25 years ago to represent my boys. Like their growth, these trees are probably 40 plus feet tall with branches that reach out to meet each other and the neighbor’s garage. Oops. We keep holding our breath we won’t have to trim them). It is time for the easing of winter, but in this moment, I am appreciating its beauty!
I am also appreciating the cozy room we created about 5 years ago, rather than working in my basement office. I love how this space turned out. (It wasn’t functioning as a dining room and we ran into complications to make it a four-season porch. But it all worked out because the 2 facing couches with fuzzy pillows and blanket, coffee table on a beautiful rug my parents found in Italy, in between windows that allow for the light to shine through, is meant to be. We painted it a rich burgundy, left the chandler with dimmer hanging in the middle, and added one of those fireplaces that sits tabletop. Which I am about to light). Now described as warm and welcoming. What I like most about this room though are the shelves that stretch corner to corner against the only full wall. They are filled with pictures of our kids, grandkids, parents, grandparents, and friends. They span our life experiences; weddings, birthdays, the carefully preserved Santa suit all 3 boys wore on their first Christmas, achievements, milestones, art projects, vacations, activities that capture a pitch through the windup and landing the skateboarding trick. The room is filled with "LIFE" and memories to reflect upon!
Gratitude is easily one of my favorites. There is endless available material on it. From how to practice it, through its life changing benefits, and beyond. I believe in it and the power it holds because I have experienced it for myself. At a place now where I capture the blessings life gives us as they occur. I did create the habit with bedtime routines long ago. (Starting with asking my kids as we laid down to sleep “what they liked about their day”, to then writing in my own gratitude journal at least 3 things I appreciated. First it resembled lists, but it didn’t take long to expand into descriptive phrases).
How is gratitude possible for you today? Is it the career you proudly built through hard work? Preparing a meal for or with someone you treasure? Safely arriving to embark on an adventure during the spring break season? Of course, the givens; love, kids, home, health, income….I could go on and on. Once tuned in, abundance overflows our cup. In fact, I am grateful to you for reading! And heartfelt wishes, may you be inspired by gratitude in this moment and your life, every day!
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As I was working on the blog for this week, following my carefully scheduled calendar, I determined it’s broken. The logical plan was to skillfully introduce writings that tied into promoting ReImagine Possibilities, Inc., its services and my experiences. Which to some extent, I hope I have begun to successfully achieve over the last 7 weeks. Having a structure, these blogs would generate interest from you reading them to want to consider knowing more and partner together with me. Or as I have often invited, I wanted them to be interactive and start an engaging conversation. But today I identified struggles I was having with the blogging not being aligned to what's calling inside and a more relatable style.
I simply want to share all the dialogue that is happening within me. My mind is dizzily spinning with ideas, thoughts, perspectives and more on all kinds of subjects, issues and topics. Personal and professional. Serious and maybe occasionally lighthearted. This blog today is to introduce a coming shift in my writings. We will have to see where the journey takes me and I hope, us. The new plan, posting upon idea, about anything, everything and the avoiding of limitations. My inspiration could come from my brain dumping (aka journaling), an exchange with someone, something I read, an event I attend and or even a hot controversial topic that is concerning me, maybe you too. They could touch on policies, processes, operations, relationships and or self-discovery. I will seek to be brief. In keeping with my principles and foundations around creating, coaching and connecting, to inspire a better life, a better way. I would consider it rewarding to generate any type of feeling, positive or negative, comfortable or uncomfortable, supportive or adverse.
To prepare, I need to myself, and I am kindly requesting you, to be open to imperfection and absence of structure. May we allow ourselves the chance to be messy and informal. Envision the blog as the ribbon of a package that represents us individually and collectively. We are untying it to discover the gift awaiting inside. What will it be?...Will we love it? Will it be useful? Will we seek to give it away? Or...?
I confess what felt broken, to discover what might be. I hope you will join me and choose to follow the ReImagine Possibilities, Inc. blog. Thank you for indulgence and consideration.
Who, what and why advising? May ReImagine Possibilities, Inc. be so honored.
Who am I to offer a service around advising others? I joke with myself, “another 50-year-old facing a complicated career force out, asking themselves, what now?” And considering consulting as a viable option. Laughing or rolling your eyes...I do too and would understand. Personally, I was never a big fan of hiring consultants. Predictable with my entrepreneur spirit. I am independent, driven and doing for myself is instinctive. It isn’t I feel help is wrong or bad. Or I am better than seeking it. If my actions are being interpreted as I think I know it all. I wouldn’t want that burden. But IT IS the responsibility and accountability I hold for myself. I appreciate discovering, doing and yes, "fixing"! It is how I learn best and how I have built a 3-decade successful and reputable career; as 3rd generation successor in our global family business, from errand girl to first woman President, distributing products B2B and B2C within the hospitality industry. Who am I to advise? I am someone with integrity and experiences. Capable and worthy of coaching you, your family, team, operations and best interests.
What am I offering in my advising? As a proclaimed self-help junkie, I believe there is great value in broadening education and perspectives. I seek and respect opinions through conversations or word to expand ideas. But then, I am passionate about trusting and believing in yourself. Seize the information and tools acquired, to make decisions for what is right in your situation and the greatest good for all. With these guiding principles, it isn't a stretch that I embraced “life-coaching”. A bridge to honoring the expert within us individually, while also pursuing my desire to be helpful and give back what I have achieved. When choosing me, you are entering into a partnership. I will expect you to be accountable to who you are, not a version of someone else. You will craft the work, because you are the expert of your life, situation and business. I will share my experiences, knowledge and support to provide information for informed decision making. As well as coaching techniques to realize and identify your values, truths and story, that have shaped your relationships and career. My work history is long and the experiences encountered have wide ranging breadth and depth. I feel they make me capable and credible to a variety of company structures, sizes and across industries. A link to my ABOUT follows, with an extended invitation to discuss in person. What am I offering? I offer a unique, vast and balanced skill set. Connecting my past career and future in coaching, to discover changes and possibilities. Positioning for success, you and your best interests in the present.
Why am I offering a service around advising? When I tried to answer that “what now?” question. The repeated response within was, “Things happen for a reason. I am not losing but gaining. How am I meant to give back my many, many blessings to serve others?”. A personal and professional blurred “why or vision", reappeared; “inspire a better life, a better way”. We all have challenges and need to seek answers for them. I would like to make a difference for the common good and contribute positively towards the outcomes. Whether it is one on one, a family, a team or whole company, I am driven by an agenda of reimagining YOU and your wants. Properly aligned to and with all that is possible. Why my advising? I am empathic and relatable. Together we will reimagine how to create something that is sustainable and an authentic reflection of your story, family and or business.
A few weeks ago, I introduced an article on defining family and the expanded interest I have after my perspectives were challenged. Thank you if you made the time to read it! Today, I follow up on the idea of what is family, with the “How” of family.
There's an old proverb that says “You can't choose your family. You take what fate hands you. And like them or not, love them or not, understand them or not, you cope. Then there's the school of thought that says the family you're born into is simply a starting point. They feed you, clothe you, and take care of you until you're ready to go out into the world. There you find your own tribe.” - MEREDITH
How do you view your family…
A family to run to or run from?
Do they nurture your best or ignite your worse?
A family of creation or a family created?
A family of unconditional acceptance or conditional rejection?
Do they set you free or hold you hostage?
Are you coping with or finding your own?
Our families, likely are not these extremes but somewhere in between and more, on any given day.
What keeps my curiosity high? I believe I have a relevant position and empathy on the subject, personally and professionally. It is fascinating to reimagine all the possibilities for giving back to others from my experiences and knowledge.
A peek into my individual history; from small families with multiple family businesses, my parents were quite young when married. I am the 2nd born, oldest girl. I have 2 brothers, 2 sisters. Recently, I experienced an abrupt ending, as 3rd generation successor in one of the family businesses, and decades of working with family companies from the hospitality industry.
Some business data points; family firms comprise 80-90% of all business enterprises in North America. They account for 64% of the US GDP, generate 62% of the country’s employment and 78% of all new job creations*. One could debate how critical are family businesses.
Most importantly though, I want to hear your story. How it began, continues to evolve and influence, you and your career. I have spent the last 2 ½ years discovering and uncovering mine, beyond what I believe I knew before. At first, I was surprised to interpret I am “the black sheep”. With a bit more digging, all the way to the beginning, what I uncover provides connections and creates understanding. I have a start on viewing my own “how”. Reimagining change and discovering possibilities.
Let's have an open, honest, thoughtful and interactive conversation about your view on family!
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