I encourage you to know and connect with all your individual story. It is an outline for career choice, business and without a doubt contribution to culture. Like looking in a mirror, stories are reflected in the values and motives behind decisions, actions, and words…consciously, subconsciously or deflected. For instance, we can all relate to pain. If honest, we might notice in ourselves, or see in those who hurt us and others (unintentionally or intentionally), the often, silent suffering. This inflicted pain may show up in leadership style, company initiatives, hires, takeovers, transference, anger to name a few.
As realistically as possible, it has been my leadership and career practice, to not expect others to do what I am not willing to or have myself. So, knowing the possibilities for understanding and transformation, I offer, tell your story. If overwhelming, pick a “chapter”… first job, current role, 30’s, 50’s…give it a title. Then freestyle write, no worries of grammar, stream of conscious thoughts. What in your story might need some unpacking? Perhaps a buried hurt or untreated pain exposed? Are you open to let healing, and more authentic culture be reimagined?
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I am being reminded of a movie that really stuck for me, Shallow Hall. Perhaps, like Tony Robbins (in the movie), he could make it possible for us all to reimagine each other through hypnotizing us, "to recognize only the inner beauty" vs. outside appearance.
As our society, our business, our own personal self-evaluations flirt (heck sometimes skips to marriage, 😊) with “less about one’s character, and more about one’s looks (ID)”, I offer just some potential markers on the path, to pause and reflect upon.
*Measurements of excellence *Right people, right seats
*Positioned for success *Mathematics… pure and simple.
*Performance expectations *Available, qualified talent
*Benchmark bars *Communication strategies
*Internal teamwork *Cultural dynamics
*Alignment of values, story, brand And more…
I share that personally; I was subject to the “suggestion” of taking the family company to a “Women-Owned” status. I could see the bit of hurt in my father’s eyes, but the customers assured us that it meant so much more potential revenue as our company would help fulfill diversity requirements related to their purchases. Dad let ego go, took one for the team. To be honest, I hated (and I never use that word) any resemblance of the idea someone was not choosing to do business, be in partnership with or see us as the best option for their needs as the top priority in making such a decision. Often being assured it was just a bonus reason, not criteria. But in the shadows, hiding was that why question. For myself, slightly dramatic, I didn’t like the feeling I or our business may be judged by what vs who. In the end, the “promise” of increased revenue was unfulfilled.
With some relevance, a LinkedIn connection, reminded me of an effective tool in battling addiction, “you must think beyond the moment, (or first drink), down the road (to the last drink).” Like a game of chess or the popular book The Art of War. Considering the consequences, not the feel good or trending emotions, of a on the surface decision as it plays out. Are we truly recognizing actions and or fully informed to plan for the future of ALL involved?
Fortunately, I have experienced myself both the Shallow Hal lesson and the addiction tool, becoming a believer early on to see past appearances and consider what is further down the path, in combination. Wondering now, maybe a pause and reflect is self-sabotaging? Learning through doing is more impactful. My words vulnerable to misinterpretations. Eventually regardless of how well-intended current views or decisions are, if not solidly connected with character, creates an abundance of future coaching opportunities? Hmmm?
Kind and sincere wishes, whatever it is, the best choices are made for the best reasons. (No costly divorces!)
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What a great song, Dream Weaver, by Gary Wright. Good melody and sing along!
You have a dream, a vision, a solution but are overwhelmed by how to begin making it reality! I love being a part of the actual weaving of dreams within business possibilities. Whether a start-up or being reimagined, the creative process of making a dream reality is beyond rewarding for all involved!
Entrepreneurship is not for everyone, though a potential consideration of the times, is something I treasure. From my personal experiences in the multi-generational family business or starting from scratch, I empathically can share the many steps involved, both parallel and chronological. Rooted in principles that every dream is precious, each business is unique and embracing, an owner is to be respected as the Dreamer, I provide a structure, information, accountability and ask “powerful” questions through the journey. A basic tool I like to share is a one page “foundation” …that I just now am deciding to rename from “Simplified Business Plan” to “The Dream Weaver”. This template will prompt you through all the key markers of taking what you are imagining, into a phase questioning how it is, or to make it, viable and feasible. If you can dream it, articulate it, in companionship I will do all I can to support you while on the path towards achieving and growing it. You do not have to travel alone, nor should you, regardless of talent and capability. There is a lot to do!
Just because a business is established, of course dreaming does not or should not ever stop. At any point in its life, taking a new dream through the steps of making it real can be vetted. Many elements of the startup process are adaptable to a whole business reimagined, a single aspect of the business simplified, a concept, product, or improved process. I believe it is possible to continually create your dreams by applying inspired disciplines. “Cross the highways of fantasy, Help me to forget today's pain, Ooh dream weaver…”
(You can also tap many amazing resources, including the Small Business Development Center, I am so proud to be a part of.)
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Over the last week, there has been a bit of a subtle focus going on for me, around communication. Talk about a never-ending discussion. (Yes, double, bad pun!) For the sake of this Blog, I share 3 examples of what has come up.
First – as a continuous learner, I am reading the book Conversational Intelligence. Author Judith E. Glaser, while educating on brain functionality, describes types of conversations we engage in and the role of “trust” in how we communicate with each other. It is always fascinating how often we can return to basic, centralized principles in relation to creating the quality of our life. Simply stated, without trust it is unlikely you will experience transformational interactions. But then of course, how exhausting it would be if ALL communication were at this deeper level, of share/discover. Sometimes you just need to exchange information. Other times, your goals are to advocate your position. Being aware of the desired outcome, helps channel how best to communicate. Having a singular approach may keep you from maximizing potential.
Secondly – building upon the ideas of multiple approaches, it can be said that it is not always about what is stated, but how spoken or even more important heard. There are writings after writings and supportive data, to validate over and over, we hear through our own filters, individual story. This reality brings up the continuous chance for us ALL to be aware of others from their experiences to personalities, taking a walk in another's shoes. About a year ago, I was introduced and trained on an amazing tool that makes this a feat that can be accomplished. Not just another personality assessment, B.A.N.K. from CodeBreaker Technologies, will teach you (together with a cool AI feature) how to show “understanding” and slightly adapt your conversational approach to initiate a stronger connection with whomever you are interacting with. Launched to capitalize on Why They Buy, (by Cheri Tree) for extraordinary sales results, there is no reason not to apply the techniques for greater team building and personal conversations too.
Thirdly – working with my small business clients, there has been a theme around expectations, discussed within communication strategies. Whether it is coaching owners, management team to establish a structure covering how they will communicate with each other (frequency, manner, accountabilities, agenda) to the verbal and nonverbal messaging showing up as culture (of business or family) to writing a proposal to clearly defining your audience (client, marketing target) engagement trigger, establishing clarity around expectations is not just a best practice but positions ALL for the greatest opportunities to succeed. Intentionally stating “expectations”, you can track accountabilities and work towards achieving what may be measured.
Trust + Understanding + Expectations… 3 knowns, but reminding, starting points when advising on or evaluating communication.
Easy...if only so! Happy communicating.
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“It just takes ONE”, as I suggested in a personal post on social media earlier this week.
Expanding upon the idea, how would it feel to have your own 1 on 1 dedicated coach? Not a peer group, not a team, not a well-meaning consultant, friend or loved one, but a dedicated engagement that is centered around valuing you, your work, or your business…just as you are, and have the potential to be! You are a seasoned professional. You have countless experiences. You are educated and knowledgeable. You are human, not a Superhero (maybe on occasion though, wink). Who do you confide in, that allows you to fail, learn, question, strategize, while navigating through your days? Who is in partnership with your best self and visions for the future, professionally and personally? I have been there; alone within a team, confident yet vulnerable, valuable with a target on my back, balancing work/life and so much more. Empathically, it is possible for me to interpret and meet you where you are at, to walk side by side with you.
They say in life if you can count on one hand, the relationships you have that are truthfully authentic, you are rich. What if one of those is a life coach, an executive coach, a business advisor – appreciating, inspiring you to be the ONE and only ONE you.
Whether considering ReImagine Possibilities or one of many qualified, wonderful options…how could 2021 evolve for you from an investment in a 1 on 1 coaching approach?
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Culture is fascinating to me in so many ways and I feel passionate about unpacking and repacking the writing of authentic ones.
I am struck by the idea, beyond our obvious country crisis, it is easy to predict that businesses and families are and will continue to be challenged to examine their cultures. Attempting to keep culture simple–I define it as “The Story” of your business, family, or personal life. A story rooted in clearly defined and shared values, decisions that are filtered through those values, demonstrating you live and speak in integrity to those values and there is alignment from member behaviors to internal/external communications to brand messaging. Of course, nothing at the moment is this “simple”.
Through Narrative coaching, options exist to embrace exactly what story you are telling and what story do you want to be living. A coaching engagement values you as the expert of your story, an alternative to well-meaning consultants that are sharing their expertise. It is good to have choices when considering how you might approach, what I believe is, a meaningful culture opportunity.
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The Fresh Start of a New Year always fills me with motivation, particularly around focus, organizing and disciplines. I started my 2021 business planning with revisiting why I chose to name my company, ReImagine Possibilities, by reading the definitions of reimagine and possibilities.
reinterpret (an event, work of art, etc.) imaginatively; rethink.
to form a new conception of : RE-CREATE
the condition or fact of being within the limits of ability, capacity, or realization
something that may be conceived, be done, or occur according to nature, custom, or manners potential or prospective value
Admittedly, I love the combination of taking action as described in the verb reimagining and validating how possibilities may be considered a tangible thing. It energizes me to consider reinterpreting imaginatively within abilities, capacities, and realizations. Confirming once more, I am passionate about the buckets of services offered in giving back from all I have been privileged to encounter in my career and life thus far, by...
Creating, As lifelong entrepreneurs, we pursue solutions through product or service ideation and implementation.
Coaching, In partnership, we tell, unpack, repack and write stories that respect you as the expert of your life, family and or business.
Connecting, Combining decades of experience and hands on education, we offer an alternative to traditional business and executive advising/consulting.
A potential client might visualize outcomes and solutions, for their pain points, or see opportunities, such as...
*purpose - define it, be intentional about it
*culture change - what story are you telling, what story do you want to live. Is it authentic, rooted in values and integrity?
*aligned identity - strong brand message, right people in right seats
*successful transition - manage through the unexpected in life events, careers, exit strategy.
*satisfied curiosity - understand the difference between consultant and coaching partnership engagements
*where do I "start-up" - what is process for developing new and innovative solutions into a business.
*best practices - operationally, positioned for success, fulfilling potentials
*inspiration - Thought leadership, putting human capital first, serving on their boards.
*make dreams come true - pursue those burning questions of what if and disrupt what is.
To know me, ironically, one could say this reflects my personal journey. I believe there is strength in providing insights and knowledge from what I also live. Empathy is undervalued and underserved.
Finishing with a strategic double check, is the company vision answering... Who we are, What we do, Where we are going? Yes! ReImagine Possibilities is dedicated to Inspire a Better Life, a Better Way!
That will uniquely embrace... Who you are, What you do, Where you want to go!
Happy 2021, may abundance and prosperity be each of ours, by Reimagining what is Possible, together.
Is it possible leading is as simple as "one" whose actions contribute to creating a following? The leadership/leader doesn't have to be good, bad, right, wrong... but "popular" or "fearful" with a following. Honestly, I really struggle with all the ideas and conversation about leadership. They make me cringe. Sometimes I think it is all BS.
What makes a good leader?
How do you become a leader?
Is leadership inherent by character or position?
What about leadership is important?
What role does "power" & the intelligences play?
Is it where the buck stops, regardless?
I could be a bit guided by personal struggling, as I thought I checked a fair amount of boxes to feel my leadership be disregarded and insignificant in one career, and fortunate to be appreciated as a blessing in another. Concluding, is the focus misguided? What if it's about understanding those "one" leads. Their needs, wants, triggers and motives. If in alignment and respected, a leader leads effectively and influences change. Unaligned and disrespected, there is resistance and dissent. This is not a perfect summary. I am barely conveying the depth of my inner conversations...YES my own head is spinning!
May I offer in this moment, who is leading who? And I suggest, those speaking the loudest are leading mostly emotional, not fully informed and balanced, actions and conversations. Maybe the outcomes will be ok. But perhaps it is a larger burden and or consequences being put on them then they are prepared for. If appropriate, when you look in the mirror today, are you leading or part of the flock? Who are you seeking to be? Has lead/herd become one in the same? Now what...
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