I was going to write a post about the power words hold. It is a love/hate relationship. But as I started typing my thoughts shifted to the idea that words have little influence until they are heard and or read. Power is in the listening, reading and interpreting. Which is all done through the narrative of our personal life. Held values, beliefs and experiences. (remember the game telephone?)
And the examples are all around us! To call out a few…
Media – they no longer report words to us that we may process ourselves. We get inserted adjectives, suggestive language and opinions. Talking points repeated over and over until our subconscious makes them fact and influences behaviors. We align with those we identify with more, find an element of trust in.
Wouldn’t it be nice if individual reasoning replaced group think?
Politicians – what if we could only read a speech or quote? No visual, no attached tone, no preconceived agenda. How would we decipher it through the filter of heart and mind? When I know I have a bias, I look for the transcript, attempting to manage my weakness. (Sidebar-Given the climate, I am reimagining elections… We vote only by our principles, never a candidate. Campaign seasons are months, not years. Rallies, townhalls and ads build up positions, not tear down people.)
Wouldn’t it be nice if measurable results not rhetoric spoke louder?
Emails – I have tried to practice and encourage others to read these in monotone, without adding emotion or assuming the voice it was written in. Too often a single, unintended sentiment, has altered relationships. We don’t know the day someone is having or realize their hot button. If I am meant to consider a tone, then be it person to person. The added benefit of, in person, observing body language and looking eye to eye.
Wouldn’t it be nice to speak on our own rather than spoken for?
Communications - As wisely put in the, potentially life changing highly recommended, book “The Four Agreements”, all communication is done through a lifetime of built up agreements within. What we say and do, the mirror of viewpoints, knowledge and feelings. It is not about “us” personally but is personal to “you”. Being able to embrace this, opens unbelievable possibility to better understand, appreciate and learn from each other. Avoiding competition where it is not relevant.
Wouldn’t it be nice if conversations were exchanges that validated what we uniquely offer?
You and your narrative are powerful!
How will spoken and written words compliment and or challenge your story, today?
Thank you for considering my words. I present them thoughtfully. Curious, how were they received?
ReImagine Possibilities., Inc
There is an argument to be debated that my life balance the past few years has painfully been tipped towards the loss side of scale. If I lived as a victim or tended to be a negative person. However, thankfully, I would be the opposite. I am perhaps at times overly optimistic (according to my children) and strongly believe in my own accountability. The cheerleader, thus Coach/Advisor, in me! Besides, as so eloquently presented in a preaching recently, is it loss? Or simply a new beginning within an ending, to center oneself in what the moment offers?
This is a vast topic to write about. There are many directions my mind and fingers would like to travel. For the sake of this post, I am limiting myself as best I can. Listed below are LESSONS, nothing very new, but being considered again through the perspective of my latest “fresh start”.
*A place for everything, everything in its place
*Positioning for success
*It is the little things
*Never underestimate what makes a difference
*Being present, in the presence
*Show up, impact happens in just being there
*Appreciate what you have, before it’s gone
*The memories, not regret, to be forever
*Bad choices have lasting effects
*What is done cannot be undone, “it’s time” to focus on what next
*Don’t do it later
*Do it, say it, be it NOW
*Power of Acceptance
*Unconditional love can exist
*Never give up
*Only takes one time, one person, one discovery
*Go all in
*Whatever you are doing, don’t hold back
*Believe in yourself
*Without taking the risk, you will never actually know
*Eventually you will be acknowledged
*It’s not about you
*Give and take, together
May you prepare, without guilt, for gain within loss! Amongst what may be taken from you, willingly or unwillingly, you aren’t eliminating what was but creating what can be. Begin to end, end to begin, again.
Do you have a Loss Lesson to share? ReImagine Possibilities., Inc.
Ever have one of those days – where life just feels more surreal than real? Most likely, yes. I am having one of those weeks. Had another intended post but after having to unexpectedly say good bye to our dog of 12 years, all my words seemed lacking. Now just trying to make sense of the senseless.
In the End, is - life, work, relationships surreal? An individual expression of how we show up in unintentional exchanges and experiences, real? How do we respond and react without filters? What is our personal willingness to invest? Do we have an intuitive attitude? When thrown a curve, a week off track, surreal or exposing what is real?
Sometimes there simply is no answer. (like why a healthy dog eats a ribbon and the consequences that follow)
I can propose we reimagine…Let there be dreaming, in a dreamlike incident. Be curious about what is explicable in the inexplicable. Believe in significance and hopeful of possibilities.
In the End, if you thesaurus Surreal - bizarre and fantastic, exist together - for real.
Reese you will be missed.
ReImagine Possibilities., Inc.