"In the End..." Destroy to Conquer
After a company launch, a Q&A (survey on family), and a business service blog – I write this week about Reimagining and Possibilities. As I have previously mentioned, the goal for my weekly blog is to initiate conversation around inspiring a better life, a better way. Today, let’s boldly talk about principles generating concern and how they may show up… "in the end".
To get started on where I am going with this. I propose reimagining “tearing down someone’s life over jealousy (power, competition, regret) for the benefit of oneself”. Is the simplified idea of “destroy to conquer” acceptable, logical or beneficial…in the end? Put life is not fair aside. For a healthy, non-political debate we could argue it’s being displayed day in day out, all sides, on a National scale. We can read story after story of unfairness within communities, businesses, schools, churches, families and relationships. I may even have a bit of knowledge from personal experience. I believe we could all tap into a time when we witnessed or felt such a thing happen to our self. Perhaps we must look in the mirror and own the behavior. If it seems I have taken a singular viewpoint, that is not my objective. I am challenging myself, along with you, to a deeper understanding. Exploring values. Discovering where change may occur.
Is it possible…
I write to create fresh thoughts, connect in conversation, not to suggest or impose my perceived position for your own. And welcome your comments where I did not present a wide enough lens. For every statement spoken or written, we do live in an environment of being able to contradict it – the challenge, let your 1st opinion go, and take on an alternative one for a full 5 minutes of reflecting. What did you discover?
What standards do you have concern about – do they involve communication, group thinking, lies, love, belonging, kindness, freedom, potential, individualism, winning, extremism...what is nagging at you, want to share? How can we together reimagine “it’s” possibilities… "in the end".
A perspective on Coaching
Ever since I engaged in education to be certified for “Life coaching” – I will be honest, I have struggled with the term “coach”. There is a stage and or positions in our life when coaching makes total sense. But once we have reached certain milestones personally and professionally, “coaching” seems unnecessary for ourselves, right? We’re the Adult, Expert, Executive, Well-Educated, Experienced. We cannot show a weakness that could be related to developing powers, securing knowledge, receiving instruction on “life”. The stigma of the word seems to be in contradiction to what the actual purpose and objective is meant to be. Whether it is labelled life or executive (and they are not truly one in the same) the word “coach”, I am somewhat guessing, either turns many people off or signifies indulgence. Anything in between, “It is not for me, others that’s fine, not me.”
So how do you feel about the following…
Identify processes to transport you from where you are to where you want to be
Improve personal effectiveness, relationships
Advance towards, achieve goals
Focus on specific tasks and objectives
Receive positive support
Change and stress management
Align values with decision making
Would you, your life, your job benefit from rallying behind these outcomes? Consider engagement with a trusted partner whose only agenda is your potential to accomplish these and more day in and day out. A “life coach” respects and recognizes you as the expert of your life and job. They listen without judgement. They offer accountability to creating the life you desire. They promote independent thought. They encourage multiple perspectives to make informed choices. And in the business world, if the “coach” also has insight, understanding, of your job and the challenges you are facing – a positive alternative to venting, with your associate, friend, loved one who wants you to stay within healthy boundaries?
It could be argued that now more than ever, we would like to be our truest, best version. We do not need to follow, but lead. We would like to tap our creativity, not do what has always been. We don’t need to accumulate likes but have acceptance of self. We would like to stop fearing and start believing. We are seeking inspiration, differentiation and fulfillment.
Just for fun – respectfully, if it wasn’t called “coach” what would you call this role? A partner that is cheerleader, supporter, identifier… Who listens, empowers, advances… Please comment – I am looking for the ultimate “title”. And your willingness to try adding it as part of your life for a test period. If I could fill this position for you, it would be a privilege to discover the possibilities within you and reimagine what might change together. But if not me, be open to the right person at the right time. This career is growing, engagement increasing! Lead confidently the movement. You are worthy of the indulgence.
"We Are Family," What?
There are probably as many ways to define family as there are families. Does it matter?
After my ideals, description and values were challenged, describing family is interesting to me. My curiosity is high. My perspectives questioned. I want to hear what others have to say about family. It’s fascinating to reimagine all the possibilities and discover what family means to others and how it matters.
Family by dictionary is a noun, but shows up often as an adjective, sometimes verb.
Family is our first experience of belonging in this world and culture—we all have one in some form.
Family still represents measurable significance, for our economy as both businesses and consumers.
Family is our standard of living and being—the ultimate identifier.
Let's have an open, honest, thoughtful and interactive conversation about defining family!
Please strongly consider indulging me and my interest by participating in an approximately 10-minute survey—depending on your reflecting—per the link below. Your answers, not only valuable because you voice them, will become important data points for creating, coaching and connecting.
I am excited to receive your (confidential) responses and with them inspire better families. My heartfelt appreciation for your time and contribution. To make this survey as beneficial as possible, kindly forward within your network as comfortable. I promise to share follow up blogs with summaries, that you may choose to use and benefit from the input.
Happy 2019 and all the hope, discoveries and prosperity it brings. For me, it has brought possibility to “officially” launch a new business focused on reimagining how I can give back to YOU in a way that will inspire something better! ReImagine Possibilities, Inc. is all about creating, coaching and connecting. My successful business career of over 3 decades combined with continuous learning has given me a breadth of experience and experiences to serve YOU!
Are you an individual wanting to improve personally or an Executive needing a "partner" at work – may I be your “coach”? Maybe attempts to create a thriving culture are lacking something – I have a perspective to explore. Do you want to diversify your board of advisors and or directors – I am and think, outside the box. Are you struggling with the balance between family roles within business – I have understanding relating as child/parent, sibling/sibling and in-law. Could the company benefit from a fresh look at strategy and operations – I have decades of award-winning hands-on knowledge in ALL areas. Is your team trying to connect with competent personnel in a time of limited labor resources for a project or temporary role – may I contract with you? Where, what are your gaps - I will work hard to help fill them, creating, coaching or making connections.
My inspiration is simple – the fulfillment of your potential, personal or business! Let’s embrace the expertise existing within you and seek answers for whatever is challenging. I will question what might change through advising/coaching, product/business development and solutions, and thought leadership. Our time together – leaving us both better.
To know me is to know my values of integrity. I will be truthful and trustworthy. That I am authentic. You can count on me to have empathy for what you are experiencing, who you are, and keep it real. As well as respect. I believe everyone, and their ideas are deserving, while honoring boundaries and privacy.
Whether you consider my services now, later or never, please engage regularly with me on the ReImagine Possibilities Blog. It is a conversation, together! Your topics raised, and input always welcomed, along with my Q&A, perspectives, encouraging and who knows what I may come up with.
Cheers to a New Year that is abundant and exceeds all expectations. (grateful for the chance to launch!)