Would it be fair to say that nothing mirrors our unspoken stories greater than the fears that are reflected through how we are living? What is lurking in the dark shadows, as an opportunity to bring into the light? Could fear (or absence of) possibly be the greatest director of our lives?
The last year plus has exposed so much. “Forever” we went about our days, occasionally facing and experiencing what we feared, but mostly just embracing life routinely, through “normalcy”. Along comes a disruption and nothing will ever return to what was. One could assess, we are a world more afraid of dying than living, or fears are more relevant than faith, or we are concerned more with following/belonging than questioning… I could go on, but we all have our own perspective to insert. If honest, speculate that underlying any viewpoint, fear is present as a motivator.
There is healthy fear, of course. Fear triggers our need to evaluate and protect. Logically, we always want a presence of fear as a checks and balance. Where we should be concerned about the role of fear is when it becomes the dominating driver of choice. If fear takes over our values and what we value, does fear lead, or even win? I.e.: Are we living the values of family, when they are “alone” in a moment, they seek us most? Are we living in integrity when we claim freedom matters, but concede to questionable restrictions? Are we satisfied, historically, we will look back with little regret and limited “I wish or if only”?
When you look in the mirror, what story do you see fear writing for you right now? There are resources, like Coaches, that can help channel your fears whether personal or business in ways that will honor your values, unpack a buried story, empower you to choose the chapter you intentionally write and more. Following is one possible exercise to consider, if relevant.
May the reflection you see, always be the silhouette of your inner courage and productively channeled fears. May you glow from facing your OWN truths.
F – Identify your Fear/s
O – What Options exist in your fear/s?
R – What are the Realities of these options?
W – What are you Willing/unWilling to do?
A – Do you need to consider an alternative Attitude?
R – Can you Reimagine what may/may not be possible through this new attitude?
D – What Decision will you choose to move forward?
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